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26 April 2019

dementia lessons...

What I have come to believe is that the important thing during conversations are not the FACTS or the STORY itself but the feelings she is somehow trying to convey.

I have learned suspend disbelief about the story itself and try to discern the feelings under the surface. The story is best seen as an allegory for some feeling she has. 

When I interact in that way the result is more discussion, more confidence, calm and being more present. If I try to correct to 'clarify' the interaction can quickly turn combative, defensive and aggressive.